Yesterday was my 10th wedding anniversary. Though to anyone outside of my marriage, it would appeared to have been any other day.
There were no cards or gifts, no getting dolled up to go out for a fancy candle-lit dinner. In actual fact, my husband and I only saw each other long enough to have a hug, a kiss and to say goodnight.
From outside our very solid partnership, it may appear as if we have fallen out of love, lost our spark, or worse. Au contraire!
You see, my husband and I are both going through an extremely busy and somewhat stressful period in our lives. We discussed traditional and modern 10th Anniversary gifts we could buy for each other, and what we might do to celebrate. We both came to the conclusion that it was one more unnecessary task on our burgeoning ‘to do’ lists. Participating in the traditional anniversary expectations was an added stress that neither of us needed nor wanted. And more to the point, neither of us felt the need to do these things in order to express our love for one another.
So we both agreed that the most loving thing we could do to celebrate our 10th wedding anniversary was absolutely nothing!
For our special day, my husband went to work came home did a little housework and enjoyed some peace and quiet and a glass of wine with his dinner. I flew home from an interstate work trip in time to drive straight to my yoga class and arrived home at bedtime. We gave ourselves, and each other, permission to do what we really wanted to do not what tradition dictates we should do.
My dear friend Green Queen wrote about a similar situation in her recent She Brisbane article which you can read here. I totally agree with her sentiments. Sometimes the wisest decision is to buck all trends and social expectations and do precisely what your heart tells you.
Being true to ourselves, and totally honest with each other, was in actual fact the best anniversary present either of us could receive.
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